It’s very rare these days for me to be compelled to argue a point on the comments page of any web site (I had enough of online quarrels during my too-much-time on internet forums during my teenage years). But Tanya Gold’s article, Men Want Us Lobotomised, in the Guardian today was just too prejudicially obnoxious to leave be.
“In speed dating,” she writes, “I did a lot better as a simpering, giggly florist than as a dazzlingly literate lawyer.” This is because the lawyer that she constructed worked 60 hours a week, read Heidegger, wanted to discuss economics and named her cats after a court case on abortion rights. And, to accompany her explanation of this to each of her subjects, she presented them with what she simply describes as a “grin”.
Here’s my response:
This has nothing to do with male expectations of or desires for female inferiority. Working 60 hours a week is a turn-off to any sex. The stare that you got from the engineer is probably because he had never heard of Heidegger. Are you accusing Eric of being uninterested in economics because you are a female who is? Or was he perhaps simply not interested in economics, as he said? And then you told another prospective that your cats were named ‘Roe and Wade, after the United States supreme court case that resulted in the legalisation of abortion’. The unsubtlety of your attempts to drive these men away is staggering, and the clearly planned bias of the experiment is unmistakable.
Your dates’ reactions are not because you played the part of an intelligent woman, but because you played the part of a dull, humourless, aggressive one.
Why did the Guardian print this nonsense?
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